A MUST READ!!! Mistakes Men Make In Bed

When it comes to what women want in bed, men tend to make serious avoidable mistakes.While you may give yourself pep talks before a lazy encounter or pat yourself on the back after a great time in bed, don’t be too smug about knowing what women want.

A recent survey suggests that most men are not the skillful lovers they think themselves to be. When it comes to the fundamentals, men tend to make some serious mistakes in the sack. Here are the 10 avoidable ones. Silent play No matter the circumstances, most men tend to be eerily silent during the entire act. You may think that’s fine, but this makes your woman feel alienated. It makes her wonder if she’s actually pleasuring you. There’s no need to exaggerate your feelings, but you can let your partner know you’re enjoying her company in a genuine way.

 

The occasional moans and groans are not such a bad thing. Foreplay is not a means to an end Most men tend to breeze through it — the effortless kissing here and caressing there, as they undress. But in too much anticipation of a great act, you may appear desperate to begin. And that won’t score you any brownie points in the long run. Take it slowly. Enjoy every aspect of the encounter as you get to know the woman you are with.

 

 Women enjoy a well-paced build-up — the making-out, the undressing, the reciprocal oral sex. This will also lead to a more fulfilling encounter. And perhaps, a standing invitation for more. Forget the big O Besides, when you approach sex with a clear focus on only reaching an orgasm, you may lose sight of the path to the climactic moment. Don’t pressure yourself, or your partner, to hit the finish line as quickly as possible. Rather than rush it, why not enjoy the experience as a whole. You’ll prolong your pleasure, and your partner will feel like she’s with a guy who actually knows what he’s doing. The conclusion, though delayed, will be a lot more satisfying for both.

 

Avoid the licking Performing oral sex on a woman means quick licks at the labia majora, followed by brief, orgasm-inducing penetration with your tongue. However, while that may seem enticing, the labial tongue lashing is not a technique that docs recommend. USE The fingers carefully Although digital penetration is considered a normal part of foreplay, some guys get overeager and, confuse their fingers for penises. As a result, they finger their partners with a vigour reserved for sex. This also reflects that they have no clue what a woman wants, which is why they have resolved to go hard and fast. Instead, you should aim for a more measured approach; make her get used to the feel of your fingers as you gradually insert more of them. There’s room for intensity, but a little nuance will surely take you a long way.

10 THINGS MEN WISHED WOMEN KNEW...

Some women, without even knowing it, are driving the men who love them right out of their lives. For the most part, women aren't getting information about men straight from the source. They're asking other women, listening to so-called relationship experts, and believing statistics. While those sources may be helpful and provide some information, nothing is as accurate as asking men what they think and feel. None of these men are "experts" from academia. None of them are sociologists, psychologists, or relationship experts. They're just regular guys: a computer technician, a personal fitness trainer, a banker, a college student, an entrepreneur, a corporate executive, a police officer, a mechanic, and an attorney.

After much sampled opinions, below are list of ten things that men wished women knew. A list that bridge the gap between men and women.

1. ACTING SWEET TO GET A MAN, THEN CHANGING

I don't know why women act so sweet during dating and change completely when they know they've got you.

She used to go to bed in a naughty nightie and didn't care about sweating the curls out of her head. Now she goes to bed with a head full of rollers and a face with mask. When they were dating, she batted her eyes, spoke softly, and always looked sexy. But now that she's got him, that all changed. The gently batting eyes and shy smiles have been replaced with frowns, pursed lips, and shrill tones. No more sexy clothes. Now she dresses like she doesn't care what she looks like, every day is a bad hair day, and she's fast losing the curves in her body and developing a pleasantly plump figure.

Of course, men can't expect women to be superwomen who are able to work, cook, clean, and make love with flawless precision. But a woman shouldn't start out playing the superwoman role at the beginning and then change. It's better to present herself as she is and get it all out in the open. When a woman changes her entire act after the relationship gets going, men feel as though they've been duped. Suddenly, he doesn't know what to believe anymore and feels he can't really trust the woman he thought he knew.

2. NOT GIVING ENOUGH SPACE

She clings to me because she thinks that every minute I'm not with her I'm fooling around

The "S" word must be used carefully. Some men intentionally abuse the term "I need my space" to ensure that they can have their cake and eat it too--fool around while not giving up what they already have. But not all men are that way. Most men simply just want some room to be by themselves. Men, just like women, need to feel that they aren't trapped or being held hostage in their lives. From time to time, men want to get away and be alone or hang out with their friends.

But it's a strain on the relationship when women think that a man is being selfish, silly, or making up an excuse to go out and cheat just because he wants some space. The smart woman knows that a man needs his space and doesn't hold it against him. She's confident enough to know that each person needs his/her own space to maintain a healthy relationship. On the other hand, jealous and possessive women are well known for their deliberate attempts to prevent a man from having any sort of privacy. Those are the women who think letting a man out of their sight is a mistake. They keep choke holds on their men and eventually drive them away. But if a woman can't give the man a little space, either the relationship isn't solid or she has some personal problems she needs to deal with. If it's because she can't trust him out of her sight, she doesn't need that man anyway.

3. WANTING TOO MANY THINGS

Some men say women are unrealistic in their expectations and want too much. Of course, wanting a good hardworking man who respects women isn't asking too much. But what about when it goes far beyond that? For some women, having a good man just isn't enough. They also want a Lexus, a home, and everflowing cash. When they don't have these things, they moan and complain as though life is terrible. If the man dares to say something about how he's happy with things as they are, he'll be accused of being complacent, lazy, and lacking ambition. It's fine to have goals and want some luxuries. But counting the blessings you already have never hurts either.

6 THINGS WOMEN NOTICE IN MEN RIGHT AWAY...

ITS A NEW YEAR GUYS. BRACE UP AND GET THAT LADY YOU'VE ALWAYS ADMIRED. Those times where guys careless about how they look is far gone, you even hear some say "If she does not appreciate me this way the she is not mine" My dear, before a lady begins to appreciate your inner qualities, the outer one has to be inviting, there must be an attraction. Follow the tips below...

First impressions may be made in moments, but they predict the course your relationships follow. So if you know what exactly about you draws in the votes, you can perfect it -- and do better with the opposite sex. So what do women notice and appreciate immediately? A substantial portion of the six features of a man are apparent, in terms of height, weight and overall physical attractiveness. And when appearances don’t make the cut, the door slams shut on further interactions. Here’s a list of things to keep that door open. 1. Physical stature Yep, you knew this already: size matters. Height and weight are right on top of the list of things women notice. Too much or too little of either immediately classifies the man as unattractive to women, and closes the door before less physically obviously features (such as confidence) can be determined. 2. Appearances and attractiveness Yes, beauty is skin deep, but it’s going to get women to explore what lies beneath. Attractiveness does include what you were born with, but your genes alone can't scuttle your chances. What really counts is what you do with your hair, clothes, grooming and basic hygiene. If you can't make the effort, women certainly are not going to work hard to learn more about you!

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SEASON GREETINGS...

 

With so much love, i wish you & your loved ones a very Merry Christmas in arrears and a Prosperous New Year in advance. May all your heart desires come true. Have a great celebration everyone!! Kisses to everyone.

WHAT A TRANSFORMATION....

Being natural some say is the best way to know how beautiful a woman is... I also hear gist of guys tripping for a made up chick and running away after seeing her without one.
This is to you guys, no matter how beautiful a chick is, makeup perfects that beauty, makes her look alive and attractive. The only issues i have is that some makeup you see makes you wonder if  it was a painters job. Thier eyebrow,eyeshadow and lipstick are like OMG.
C'mon, if you must makeup, then do it appropritely, you like it or not, there are rules to having a flawless madeup face.
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HOW TO WIN YOUR GIRL BACK...

Winning a girl back can be much harder than catching the eye of a new girl, but if you really want to reignite an old flame, there are a few things you can do to maximize your chances.

Making Her Want You Again!!!

Give her some space. The first thing you need to do is give the girl some space. If you start knocking down her door and calling her every five minutes she'll only pull further away from you. The amount of space and time you give her depends on what happened when you tried to date her. If you ended a serious relationship, you'll need to give her more space than you would if you had just dated a few times.

• Don't call her, chat with her at parties, or email her just to see how she's doing. Don't even think about her.
• If you see her socially, be polite and say hi, but make it clear that you're not going to bother her.
• Just don't give her too much space. If you leave her alone for a few months, that will give her plenty of time to find someone new. 

1. Give yourself some time to reflect. Not only should you give her some space, but you should give yourself some space to reflect and think about what went wrong in the relationship. Take the time to sit down and ask what you did to make her not want you; were you too attentive, too moody, or too distant? Whatever you did, you have to make sure never to do it again if you want a moment of her day.
2. Write down the things that went wrong. Consider what you can do to improve this kind of behavior.
Don't date anyone else during the reflection period. Focus on self-improvement and working on not repeating the same mistakes.
Don't pursue her until you've figured out what went wrong and know how to change it.

Stay busy. Though you should avoid getting busy in the bedroom while you're trying to win your girl back, you should try to lead a busy and active life so you can work on being independent and pursuing your interests. If you're just sitting around waiting for enough time to pass to start trying to hang out with her again, she'll know.

• Continue pursuing your hobbies and interests. Don't stop doing all of the things you love because your heart is aching.
• Spend time with your friends. They'll cheer you up and lend you a fresh perspective.
• Work out. Your self-esteem will improve if you exercise a few times a week, and all the better if she sees you out running.

 
Let her see you having a great time. Once you've given her some space and have worked on self-improvement, she'll be much closer to wanting you. But now you have to put all the pieces together and let her see what an amazing guy you are and how much fun it is to be around you. Be strategic. Without looking like a stalker, make sure you're hanging out in some of the same places so she can see what a blast it is to be around you.

• Laugh it up. If she sees you, try to laugh with your friends as much as you can without being too obvious about it.
• Be animated. If she's around, be very animated and interested in the conversations you're having, showing that you're a passionate guy who loves to talk to his friends.
• Don't ignore her when she sees you. Give her a small wave and go back to the great conversation you were having.
• Dance. That's right. Chances are she was mad that you didn't dance with her more. Let her see you getting down on the dance floor and having a great time.
• Let her see you being your best self. There was obviously something she liked about you, so use your assets to your advantage.

 

 Make her jealous (optional). This is an optional move because it depends on the situation. If your relationship ended because she was so jealous that you were always hanging around with other girls, then you shouldn't make her jealous or she'll just be reminded of the reason why things didn't work out between you. But if your relationship ended because she thought you were just too into her, or that she was bored by you, then making her jealous is a great move. Here's how to do it:

• If you're on speaking terms, casually mention other girls. You can mention one girl a few times, leading her to wonder, "Who is this girl?" Or you can just talk about a group of girls, mentioning that you were at a party that was filled with mostly girls but that you were "okay with that."
• Let her see you with other girls. Chat with her for a few minutes before moving on to flirt with another girl that's nearby. Make sure you're close enough for her to watch it happen.
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  Don't overdo it. If she hears you talking about other girls and sees you flirting with others, she may want you even more, but if you're all over every girl at every party, you may look desperate or sleazy

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• If it was too easy the first time, make her chase you. If you can't think of what went wrong in the relationship because you smothered her with love, then chances are that this was exactly what went wrong. She must have felt that your love and relationship was too easy, so you should try to make it more of a challenge.
  • Be aloof. You should still give her some attention, but act busy or distracted and like you're not giving all your attention to her for once. This will confuse her and will make her want you more.
  • Be sparing with the compliments. If you did nothing but compliment her 24/7 when you were together, give her just one compliment to show that you're not obsessing over her.
  • Let her come to you. She was probably used to having you come up to her, touch her, and talk to her all the time; now, it's time for some role reversal. If you're at a party, let her approach you instead of stopping everything you're doing to head her way.

 If it was too hard the first time, make it easier. If you broke up because she felt that you didn't give her enough affection or time or that you spent too much time flirting with other women, it's time to do the exact opposite and to make yourself available to her and have no other women on your radar.

• Show her that your schedule is free and that you're up for hanging out whenever. She'll no longer have to hang out with you during the one hour you're free.
• Don't make her jealous. In your case, you should stay away from the other ladies as much as possible to show that you only have eyes for her.
• Take the time to listen. If she thought you didn't care about her feelings before, maintain eye contact and let her talk without interrupting. You can mention something she said in the conversation a day later to show that you really do hang on to her every word.
• Compliment her. If you never complimented her before, she'll see that you changed.

If you hurt her, apologize. If you really want her back, you have to be the man and apologize for what went wrong. If she was hurt by you, she'll want to stay away from you for fear of getting hurt again. So man up and tell her you made a mistake.

• Make sure to do this in person. It won't do if you just send her a text message or an e-mail; it has to be in person otherwise she will see that you are not very serious about this apology and so she won't take it seriously either. So braven up and go apologise for what you did to her.
• Be sincere. Maintain eye contact when you talk to her and keep a calm, even tone. She won't believe you if it sounds like you're apologizing just because it's what you should do.
• Be specific. Don't just say, "I'm sorry for everything." Say, "I'm sorry I didn't listen to you when you really wanted to talk. I should have been much more attentive." She will appreciate this, and it will make you seem more self-aware.
• Don't be disappointed if she doesn't accept your apology right away. If she doesn't accept it, she's probably still working through what happened but still appreciates your effort. Just say, "You can't blame me for trying" instead of arguing her into accepting your apology.

 

 Show what a better, more mature person you've become. She should be able to see how much you've changed without you having to say it yourself or to convince her that you're completely different. Face it -- many girls are more mature than their male counterparts, so wow her with your ability to be rational and mature.

• Don't be moody. Act even-keeled and calm, and she'll be impressed.
• Be confident. Show her that you're happy who you are and what you do, and she'll be happier with who you are too.
• Be responsible. Show her that you can manage your finances, hold down a good job, and take care of your dog at the same time.
• Don't be jealous. Don't ask her about that guy she's been talking to; this will only encourage her to talk to him more, and will make you look insecure for caring.

 

Tell her how you feel. Once she wants you a bit more and can see that you're a different person, it's time to stop playing games and to tell her how you really feel. How else can you get the ball rolling? If it ended badly, she's not going to ask you to pick things up again, so you need to get your act together and open up.

• Tell her at the right place and time. Pick a time when she's not too busy and you can be alone, ideally at night or in a semi-secluded location.
• Maintain eye contact when you tell her. No looking around, no checking your phone.
• No more Mr. Tough Guy. It's time to be open and honest and to share your true feelings.
• First, acknowledge what went wrong, and apologize for it again if you haven't already. Then, tell her how much you've changed and how much you'd love to give it another try.
• Say, "I can't believe what an idiot I've been. You were the best thing that ever happened to me and I really screwed it up. Let me make it up to you."
• Don't sound like you're begging and pleading; instead, make it sound like barely a question at all. Let her know that you're going to try again, and hopefully you'll get the answer you were looking for.

 

 You're lucky enough to be getting a second chance, and third chances are hard to come by. Make the most of your time together and make sure to treat her right. Here's what to do:
Turn up the romance factor. Bring her flowers and take her to a romantic restaurant. Now, you shouldn't overdo it to the point that she feels uncomfortable. Just add a little bit of the romance that was probably missing before.

 

 

 Compliment her. Let her know she looks nice when you pick her up, and compliment her throughout the date.


 

 

Let her know how much you've missed her. Find one or two moments during the date when you tell her how glad you are to have her in your life.

 

 

 In the end, be yourself. You can become a better listener, a more attentive person, or just learn to understand her needs, but in the end, you're still you, and you should make sure she likes who you really are. Don't try so hard to show that you've changed that there's nothing left of the old you.

 

 
 Keep the girl this time. If the date went well, and if there are more dates to follow, you need to make sure the relationship doesn't end for the same reason if you really want to stay with this girl. If she's a keeper, you must remind yourself that you have to continue making her feel special.

• Remind yourself what happened the last time, and vow not to do it again.
• Look at it as starting fresh. You don't have to rehash the old relationship, but work on building something completely new and much better.
• Relax. Just enjoy being with the girl instead of worrying about not screwing up again all the time.

 

 Tips

Make sure you are calm when you tell her. Stuttering will make her think you're not confident, which isn't the right way to start.

If you ask your girl back out while around friends, she might think you are brave and say yes. But, be careful as this path could turn left instead of right, and she could get embarrassed.

Warnings

If you really botched it so badly that she doesn't even want to look at you, it may be time to give up. Don't try again until at least a long enough time has passed for her to be able to get over it all
(Source: wikiHow).

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