PART 2 of 3: HOW TO BE MODEST.

Making Others Feel Good

Be aware of what you're worth in front of others. Studies show that to be modest, you have to be aware of how your accomplishments and qualities stack up in front of others. Only then can you realize that you have a lot to be thankful for and that you shouldn't go around making other people feel bad about it. If you know you look like a runway model, then don't complain about your stringy hair to other people; if you know you're the most talented actor in your studio, then don't talk about how insecure you feel.

• Write down the things you're good at. Be realistic -- how do you really stack up against others? Sure, you may not be completely happy in your career, relationship, or friendships, but think about how much you already have going for you.
• A lot of people are immodest because they don't realize how good they have it. They don't realize that they are bragging or complaining about the wrong thing because they may not see that they are better off than others.

Realize what others have before you open your mouth. This has to do with knowing your audience. Make sure that you are not accidentally annoying or hurting other people with your careless comments. If you're in a great relationship, don't give your best friend all of the details if she's upset about not being able to find the right guy; if you're only having a minor setback at work, don't tell your unemployed brother all about it unless you want him to feel terrible.

• Before you talk about something that is going great, or relatively not-so-great, in your life, look at who you're talking to. How is this person doing professionally or personally, and how would your statements make him feel?
• When you're talking to people you barely know, you should be even more discreet. Don't brag to someone when you have no idea where he is even coming from.

PART 1 of 3: HOW TO BE MODEST.

You don't have to be overly shy, quiet, or saintly to be modest. You simply have to avoid showing off and know how to make other people feel good about who they are. And along with being modest, you'll be pegged as a good listener and down-to-earth to boot!

Avoiding Showing Off
Don't brag about your accomplishments to everyone.The first rule to being modest is to avoid bragging -- even if you've done something great. Maybe you got a new promotion, or maybe you just closed on an amazing new house. These are all great things and you should be proud of what you've done, but being modest is all about not showing off. You can share your successes if they come up, but don't rub them in anyone's face.

• If someone mentions your new neighborhood, you can say, "I'm actually moving there next month." You don't have to say, "I just closed on an amazing new ten bedroom house with a sauna and a wine cellar."
•  Be proud of what you did and don't be embarrassed to talk about it if it comes up. But don't say, "I beat almost everyone in my age group" or "It was so easy that I took a lap around Central Park after I crossed the finish line."

Share your achievements only with the people who really care. You don't have to keep your successes completely to yourself to be modest. You just have to pick and choose who would really care about what you have to say, who really supports you, and who is really close to you and rooting for you to succeed. Maybe it's only your spouse, your mother, your best friend, or your small circle of friends. That's fine. It's better to tell one person who really cares than to brag to ten people who couldn't care less.

• If you got a new promotion, don't brag to your other co-workers or you'll look like a jerk. But tell your spouse and family -- they'll be proud of you.
• If you closed on a house, celebrate with your family and the close friends who will be hanging out there.

Avoid talking about how much money you have. Talking about how rich you are, how much money you have, how much money you will have, how big of a raise you've got, or just anything that has to do with your general wealth is not modest. Talking about how much money you have makes you look self-obsessed and just plain annoys other people. You may be proud of the money you've earned, if you've earned it, and you can share your wealth with your family or anyone you support, but that does not mean perfect strangers will be happy to hear about your fat wallet.

JUDGE A MAN BY HIS SHOES.

You can Judge a man by his shoes, they reveal whether he takes pride in the little things. If he throws on a nice suit and pairs it with cheap, clunky lace-ups, he’s not what you will call a detail man. And if he leaves his pricey wingtips scratch and unpolished, then he is definitely not the clean guy he should be.
There are numerous styles of shoes out there, but what’s great about being a man is that you can do perfectly well by sticking with just a few. If you invest in a handful of sensible (and stylish) pairs and take care of them, you’ll be set for years. Good news is you don’t have to spend a fortune or go for the Italian brands to get the high quality and style you desire, St David’s brand, experts in leather craft, with a special focus on shoes, a purely Nigerian brand, is here to satisfy that need.

For Mr David O. Ibe, Creative Director, the St. David’s a lot of people are not aware that African shoe designs have come of age in terms of quality and style.
According to David, who recently showcased a laudable collection of shoes at the GTB Lagos fashion and design week held last October, “We have come to show the public that leather items that can match world standard can be produced here in Nigeria.

This is also reflected by the expression of awe shown by visitors to our stand. A lot of them have realized that their quest for Italian shoes was futile all along”. Items from St David’s stables include shoes, bags, belts, wrist bangles and other custom leather products with a bespoke touch to each item.
Culled from Vanguard

SOUTH AFRICAN PASTORS MAKES MEMEBERS EAT GRASS.

Am tired of our pastors making us look like fools. Imagine a pastor in South Africa, Pastor Lesego Daniel is making his members eat grass. The pastor, who is the founder and head pastor at Rabboni Centre Ministries does this while trying to prove a point that humans can be controlled by the spirit of God and can survive on whatever they choose to eat.

Ex-AAU registrar’s wife commits suicide.

THE University town of Ekpoma, in Edo State was thrown into mourning yesterday, when the wife of the former registrar of the Ambrose Alli Unversity, Mrs. Kate Edokpayi, was found dead after committing suicide.

Her dangling body was discovered by her husband, Mr. Larry Edokpayi, in one of the rooms in their boy’s quarters.
Although she did not leave any suicide note, it was, however, learnt that she might have been frustrated over her health challenges.

It was gathered that she had repeatedly expressed frustration over her inability to get cure for her diabetic condition.
It was learnt that the husband, who recently retired from the service of the university, had suspected kidnapping after a long search before he was advised to check the boy’s quarters.

On getting to the quarters, he was said to have observed that the door was bolted from behind and forced it open. He was shocked to see the dangling body of his wife at the ceiling.
She was an Assistant Director with the Edo State Ministry of Education, overseeing the ministry’s office in the Ekpoma before her death.
Culled fromVanguard

Fuel Tanker Explosion kills 15 people in Apapa, Lagos, Nigeria.

 

At least 15 people including a pregnant woman lost their lives in Lagos on Tuesday night at about 11pm when a tanker laden with 33,000 litres of petrol lost control and rammed into vehicles at Kirikiri, Lagos.

The tanker spilt all its content, thereby causing the fire that burnt a branch of Sterling Bank at Berger Suya Bus Stop, one Automated Teller Machine, 11 vehicles and 60 shops.

A commercial bus (danfo) that was behind the tanker when it fell and exploded.

The petrol tanker suffered brake failure failure before bursting into flames. See pics after the cut...

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