ORGASM 103

 

If you're a woman who finds climaxing easy and can have orgasms during intercourse with little effort – even in a position where it's difficult to access the clitoris – then you are very lucky indeed!

For the majority of us, 'ringing that bell' is not nearly so simple.

Even women who can masturbate to a climax with no difficulty can feel quite anxious about 'coming' with a male partner.
This doesn't seem fair, because apart from the small minority of men who have psychological difficulties with sex and who cannot relax enough to ejaculate into their partner (delayed ejaculation), most males have no problem at all in climaxing during sexual intercourse.
But of course, in a man, the penis is the pleasure-provider. And clearly a penis gets a lot of stimulation during intercourse.

Women, as you probably know, get their pleasurable feelings mostly from the clitoris – which is the bit of them that would have turned into a penis had they developed into a baby boy in the womb, instead of into a girl.
For that reason, most women need the clitoris to be stimulated during sex – and in many positions this simply doesn't happen.

Now, please don't feel bad if you'd never really realised this before, because you're not alone.

• most women have to learn how to orgasm
• the majority of women do not climax through 'no hands' intercourse.

So, what can you do?

If you're having trouble in reaching climax, the best thing you can do is to start by learning how to orgasm on your own through masturbation.
There are articles that can help you, including:

• Once you can climax easily on your own, you'll find it much easier to have really exciting times with a partner.

But even if you are the queen of masturbatory techniques, you might still find it tough to climax during full sex, and this will almost certainly be because your clitoris is not getting sufficient attention.
So here are four sex positions that might help you to enjoy intercourse more and to have fulfilling orgasms at the same time.

The CAT position
Basically this is a face-to-face position, but the man 'rides much higher' than he would in the missionary position so that his shoulders and head are about six inches higher up the bed than normal.
What this means is that his penis doesn't go all the way into the vagina. Instead, the stem or root of it is pulled hard against the clitoris – producing great sensations in that all-important little organ.

The other difference is that instead of taking his weight on his elbows, the man should simply let his bulk slump onto his partner's upper chest.
Clearly if he's a heavy bloke, this might be a problem!
You can experiment with this position to get it absolutely right for you. Some people do it with the man's legs outside the woman, but you can also try it with his legs inside yours.

Many couples find they can't thrust much in this position so they kind of 'rock' together.
The CAT certainly produces very different sensations from many other positions, so it's worth a try, and it might just take you to the heights of ecstasy. I hope it does

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Open letter to Basket Mouth by Citizen Evelyn

Dear Bright Okpocha (aka Basket Mouth),

I am a very good fan of your comedy show including my husband and kids, I would rather have spoken to you over the phone or make time to see you face to face, but as it is the season of open letter in Nigeria, I would like to use this medium to express how disappointed I am over your comment or joke as you may call it on “Rape”.

First let me try to educate you about the meaning of Rape, maybe you did not check your dictionary for the meaning or you don’t have one at home.Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse, which is initiated by one or more persons against another without any consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority or against a person who is incapable of valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, or below the legal age of consent.

The term rape is sometimes used interchangeably with the term sexual assault.Rape and sexual slavery are recognized as crimes against humanity and war crimes. Rape is also recognized as an element of the crime of genocide when committed with the intent to destroy, in whole or in part, a targeted ethnic group.People who have been raped can be severely traumatized and may suffer from post traumatic stress disorder; in addition to psychological harm resulting from the act, rape may cause physical injury, or have additional effects on the victim, such as acquiring of a sexually transmitted infection or becoming pregnant.

Furthermore, following a rape, a victim may face violence or threats thereof from the rapist, and, in some cultures, from the victim’s own family and relatives. More about rape and its effect of victims can be obtained for free from the Encyclopaedia.Bright, let me ask you,

Kaffy and her husband, welcomes baby girl Eliana

Her excited husband broke the news via photo sharing site Instagram where he shared photos of the bundle of joy named Eliana.
Kaffy and Joseph also have a 2 year old son, Sean.

ORGASM 102

Women fake orgasms? I hate to break it to you but yes, women do indeed fake orgasms, and have been doing so for quite some time now! But the more important question is: why do they fake orgasms?
Before we get into the top 10 reasons women fake orgasms, a look at the power of an orgasm might inform and influence some of us.

The Power of the Orgasm.The orgasm is not only physically powerful for women, but also psychologically powerful for men, which is not surprising.

Here is what we know about men when it comes to issues in the bedroom. A man will feel more like a man if he knows he can satisfy a woman’s sexual needs. Of course, women know this, and realize the importance of boosting a man’s confidence in the field of lovemaking. Orgasm equals sexual satisfaction equals an enhanced relationship. Hence, women often act out fake orgasms.

Top 10 Reasons Women Fake Orgasms

1. Women want to please their partner. You know how a guy will often say that if he can bring a woman to orgasm, it not only turns him on to watch the pleasure he brings his partner, but also brings him closer to his own climax as well. Since a woman is always looking to please her man, faking an orgasm will put a smile on his face, and boost his ego at the same time!

2. Everyone loves a challenge. Women get a little thrill from being able to control a guy’s gradual climb to a climax. It is a feeling of power. The challenge comes in seeing how excited you can get your guy, and how long you can prolong his orgasm. The fact that a woman can get her guy off with a fake orgasm, whenever she feels like it, can be very satisfying.

3. One is not in the mood. Sad but true; sometimes women really are not in the mood and just want to get it over with. Again, so as not to bruise her man’s ego, the woman will simply act out a fake orgasm in order to give her partner pleasure.

4. Pain is not always good. Although some people get aroused when there is some level of pain during sex, not all pain is good pain. If a woman is experiencing pain or discomfort during intercourse, it could be an indication that something is medically wrong. Nevertheless, she may simply fake it to bring things to an end more quickly rather than say something and spoil her mate’s enthusiasm.

5. Things get too comfortable. At some point, in every relationship, things get comfortable and we start to let things go, including our physical appearance. We might frequently skip gym, indulge in decadent desserts, and forget too often to dress up and look nice for our significant other. Well, all these things do in fact have an impact on our desire for one another. If a man gets a beer gut, and that can definitely dampen a woman’s fires, she may fake orgasms instead of hurting his feeling.

ORGASM 101.

These days most women want orgasms. That wasn't always the case. A couple of generations or so ago, many adult females simply didn't have climaxes – and a lot of them weren't bothered about it. Probably a lot of them didn't actually know what an orgasm was.

All that has changed now. These days, medical opinion is that every woman should be able to have orgasms – if she wants to. Furthermore, the view of most sex experts is that the majority of women are capable of multiple orgasms – if they wish to have them. In general, the ability to have multiple orgasms is greater in more mature women.

What is a female orgasm?
What happens in a woman's body during a climax is very like what happens in  a male body when you ejaculate. In other words, there's a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything 'blows' in a great blast of ecstasy. This 'orgasmic moment' is characterised by surges of contractions in the sex organs.
Men are well aware that these throbs of pleasure are accompanied by the pumping out of spurts of seminal fluid. Obviously this doesn't happen in women.
A few females do produce some fluid at orgasm, but the impression given in so many erotic stories that most women 'ejaculate' is not correct. Only a minority of females do this.

Multiple orgasm
The other big difference between male and female orgasm is this: after the first climax, many women can 'come' again, often within a minute or two.
This ability is extremely rare in males. Relatively few young women can achieve multiple orgasm, because it's an ability that usually has to be learned. But with the help of a skilled lover, most women can eventually achieve the capacity for multiple orgasms – if they so desire.

Bringing women to a climax
For men perhaps the most important thing to realise about female climaxes is that with women, it's not a mechanical thing – as it generally is with men.
You see, most males will ejaculate quite quickly if they have their penises rubbed. This applies even if the circumstances aren't very romantic – or even if they don't particularly like the person who's doing the rubbing! Women are not like this. Female orgasm isn't a push-button response. The conditions have to be right.
Although females vary, many women need the following if they're going to reach a climax easily

PART 3 of 3: HOW TO BE MODEST.

Have modest body language. If you want to be modest, then you have to look the part. Don't hover over people, wave your hands wildly when you gesture, touch people you barely know with too much confidence, or stand with your hands on your hips and a giant maniacal smile planted on your face. Just stand with good posture, smile when the occasion calls for it, and keep your hands at your sides.

• You don't have to hunch over or look at the ground to be modest. Just don't go so over the top with your body language that people think you're full of yourself

Walk into a room with modesty. If you're modest, then you shouldn't march right into a room like you own the place and start chatting away like the belle of the ball. Stride into a room with confidence, and calmly greet people or give them hugs, but don't show up and throw your hands in the air and cry, "The party's here!" The way you carry yourself, especially when you enter a new environment, can influence how modest you really look.

Dress with modesty. This doesn't mean that you should dress like you just arrived to America on the Mayflower. However, if you want to be modest, then you should avoid clothes that are too flashy and which draw too much attention to you. Wearing obscene graphic tees, neon colors, or zebra or leopard print patterns may not be your best bet. Wear something that accentuates your best features without putting it all out there.

• Women should define what dressing with modesty means to them. There's no harm in showing off a little cleavage as long as you've got it under control.

PART 2 of 3: HOW TO BE MODEST.

Making Others Feel Good

Be aware of what you're worth in front of others. Studies show that to be modest, you have to be aware of how your accomplishments and qualities stack up in front of others. Only then can you realize that you have a lot to be thankful for and that you shouldn't go around making other people feel bad about it. If you know you look like a runway model, then don't complain about your stringy hair to other people; if you know you're the most talented actor in your studio, then don't talk about how insecure you feel.

• Write down the things you're good at. Be realistic -- how do you really stack up against others? Sure, you may not be completely happy in your career, relationship, or friendships, but think about how much you already have going for you.
• A lot of people are immodest because they don't realize how good they have it. They don't realize that they are bragging or complaining about the wrong thing because they may not see that they are better off than others.

Realize what others have before you open your mouth. This has to do with knowing your audience. Make sure that you are not accidentally annoying or hurting other people with your careless comments. If you're in a great relationship, don't give your best friend all of the details if she's upset about not being able to find the right guy; if you're only having a minor setback at work, don't tell your unemployed brother all about it unless you want him to feel terrible.

• Before you talk about something that is going great, or relatively not-so-great, in your life, look at who you're talking to. How is this person doing professionally or personally, and how would your statements make him feel?
• When you're talking to people you barely know, you should be even more discreet. Don't brag to someone when you have no idea where he is even coming from.

PART 1 of 3: HOW TO BE MODEST.

You don't have to be overly shy, quiet, or saintly to be modest. You simply have to avoid showing off and know how to make other people feel good about who they are. And along with being modest, you'll be pegged as a good listener and down-to-earth to boot!

Avoiding Showing Off
Don't brag about your accomplishments to everyone.The first rule to being modest is to avoid bragging -- even if you've done something great. Maybe you got a new promotion, or maybe you just closed on an amazing new house. These are all great things and you should be proud of what you've done, but being modest is all about not showing off. You can share your successes if they come up, but don't rub them in anyone's face.

• If someone mentions your new neighborhood, you can say, "I'm actually moving there next month." You don't have to say, "I just closed on an amazing new ten bedroom house with a sauna and a wine cellar."
•  Be proud of what you did and don't be embarrassed to talk about it if it comes up. But don't say, "I beat almost everyone in my age group" or "It was so easy that I took a lap around Central Park after I crossed the finish line."

Share your achievements only with the people who really care. You don't have to keep your successes completely to yourself to be modest. You just have to pick and choose who would really care about what you have to say, who really supports you, and who is really close to you and rooting for you to succeed. Maybe it's only your spouse, your mother, your best friend, or your small circle of friends. That's fine. It's better to tell one person who really cares than to brag to ten people who couldn't care less.

• If you got a new promotion, don't brag to your other co-workers or you'll look like a jerk. But tell your spouse and family -- they'll be proud of you.
• If you closed on a house, celebrate with your family and the close friends who will be hanging out there.

Avoid talking about how much money you have. Talking about how rich you are, how much money you have, how much money you will have, how big of a raise you've got, or just anything that has to do with your general wealth is not modest. Talking about how much money you have makes you look self-obsessed and just plain annoys other people. You may be proud of the money you've earned, if you've earned it, and you can share your wealth with your family or anyone you support, but that does not mean perfect strangers will be happy to hear about your fat wallet.

JUDGE A MAN BY HIS SHOES.

You can Judge a man by his shoes, they reveal whether he takes pride in the little things. If he throws on a nice suit and pairs it with cheap, clunky lace-ups, he’s not what you will call a detail man. And if he leaves his pricey wingtips scratch and unpolished, then he is definitely not the clean guy he should be.
There are numerous styles of shoes out there, but what’s great about being a man is that you can do perfectly well by sticking with just a few. If you invest in a handful of sensible (and stylish) pairs and take care of them, you’ll be set for years. Good news is you don’t have to spend a fortune or go for the Italian brands to get the high quality and style you desire, St David’s brand, experts in leather craft, with a special focus on shoes, a purely Nigerian brand, is here to satisfy that need.

For Mr David O. Ibe, Creative Director, the St. David’s a lot of people are not aware that African shoe designs have come of age in terms of quality and style.
According to David, who recently showcased a laudable collection of shoes at the GTB Lagos fashion and design week held last October, “We have come to show the public that leather items that can match world standard can be produced here in Nigeria.

This is also reflected by the expression of awe shown by visitors to our stand. A lot of them have realized that their quest for Italian shoes was futile all along”. Items from St David’s stables include shoes, bags, belts, wrist bangles and other custom leather products with a bespoke touch to each item.
Culled from Vanguard

SOUTH AFRICAN PASTORS MAKES MEMEBERS EAT GRASS.

Am tired of our pastors making us look like fools. Imagine a pastor in South Africa, Pastor Lesego Daniel is making his members eat grass. The pastor, who is the founder and head pastor at Rabboni Centre Ministries does this while trying to prove a point that humans can be controlled by the spirit of God and can survive on whatever they choose to eat.

Ex-AAU registrar’s wife commits suicide.

THE University town of Ekpoma, in Edo State was thrown into mourning yesterday, when the wife of the former registrar of the Ambrose Alli Unversity, Mrs. Kate Edokpayi, was found dead after committing suicide.

Her dangling body was discovered by her husband, Mr. Larry Edokpayi, in one of the rooms in their boy’s quarters.
Although she did not leave any suicide note, it was, however, learnt that she might have been frustrated over her health challenges.

It was gathered that she had repeatedly expressed frustration over her inability to get cure for her diabetic condition.
It was learnt that the husband, who recently retired from the service of the university, had suspected kidnapping after a long search before he was advised to check the boy’s quarters.

On getting to the quarters, he was said to have observed that the door was bolted from behind and forced it open. He was shocked to see the dangling body of his wife at the ceiling.
She was an Assistant Director with the Edo State Ministry of Education, overseeing the ministry’s office in the Ekpoma before her death.
Culled fromVanguard

Fuel Tanker Explosion kills 15 people in Apapa, Lagos, Nigeria.

 

At least 15 people including a pregnant woman lost their lives in Lagos on Tuesday night at about 11pm when a tanker laden with 33,000 litres of petrol lost control and rammed into vehicles at Kirikiri, Lagos.

The tanker spilt all its content, thereby causing the fire that burnt a branch of Sterling Bank at Berger Suya Bus Stop, one Automated Teller Machine, 11 vehicles and 60 shops.

A commercial bus (danfo) that was behind the tanker when it fell and exploded.

The petrol tanker suffered brake failure failure before bursting into flames. See pics after the cut...

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SOME call it examination malpractice , others says its
foolishness , and yet another says its stupidity.

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DETERMINE THE SEX OF YOUR CHILD WITHOUT AN ULTRASOUND!

WONDERS SHALL NEVER END...
This calender can be used to predict the sex of your unborn child or plan for any sex you want in your next pregnancy. It has been said to be 99% accurate. The chart was buried in a tomb near Beijing for 700 years and now can be viewed at the Institute of Science in Beijing. To predict what sex your baby will be, locate the age the mother was when she conceived as well as the month the child was conceived. Determining the sex of the baby was once very important to many parents in Chinas history and is still an issue to many Chinese people today where many men and women have a preference for the birth of male to that of a female.
See calender after cut

The 55 Year Old Lady Who Looks Like A 24 Year Old Pretty Girl

Was so surprised when i came across the story of Bo Talley, a 55 year old woman who looks and dresses like a woman in her 20's and said she's never had a surgery. The only thing that gives her away is her grey hair. Shellie is a mum, grandmother, host and CEO of Blaq Pearl Entertainment.

A MUST READ!!! Mistakes Men Make In Bed

When it comes to what women want in bed, men tend to make serious avoidable mistakes.While you may give yourself pep talks before a lazy encounter or pat yourself on the back after a great time in bed, don’t be too smug about knowing what women want.

A recent survey suggests that most men are not the skillful lovers they think themselves to be. When it comes to the fundamentals, men tend to make some serious mistakes in the sack. Here are the 10 avoidable ones. Silent play No matter the circumstances, most men tend to be eerily silent during the entire act. You may think that’s fine, but this makes your woman feel alienated. It makes her wonder if she’s actually pleasuring you. There’s no need to exaggerate your feelings, but you can let your partner know you’re enjoying her company in a genuine way.

 

The occasional moans and groans are not such a bad thing. Foreplay is not a means to an end Most men tend to breeze through it — the effortless kissing here and caressing there, as they undress. But in too much anticipation of a great act, you may appear desperate to begin. And that won’t score you any brownie points in the long run. Take it slowly. Enjoy every aspect of the encounter as you get to know the woman you are with.

 

 Women enjoy a well-paced build-up — the making-out, the undressing, the reciprocal oral sex. This will also lead to a more fulfilling encounter. And perhaps, a standing invitation for more. Forget the big O Besides, when you approach sex with a clear focus on only reaching an orgasm, you may lose sight of the path to the climactic moment. Don’t pressure yourself, or your partner, to hit the finish line as quickly as possible. Rather than rush it, why not enjoy the experience as a whole. You’ll prolong your pleasure, and your partner will feel like she’s with a guy who actually knows what he’s doing. The conclusion, though delayed, will be a lot more satisfying for both.

 

Avoid the licking Performing oral sex on a woman means quick licks at the labia majora, followed by brief, orgasm-inducing penetration with your tongue. However, while that may seem enticing, the labial tongue lashing is not a technique that docs recommend. USE The fingers carefully Although digital penetration is considered a normal part of foreplay, some guys get overeager and, confuse their fingers for penises. As a result, they finger their partners with a vigour reserved for sex. This also reflects that they have no clue what a woman wants, which is why they have resolved to go hard and fast. Instead, you should aim for a more measured approach; make her get used to the feel of your fingers as you gradually insert more of them. There’s room for intensity, but a little nuance will surely take you a long way.

10 THINGS MEN WISHED WOMEN KNEW...

Some women, without even knowing it, are driving the men who love them right out of their lives. For the most part, women aren't getting information about men straight from the source. They're asking other women, listening to so-called relationship experts, and believing statistics. While those sources may be helpful and provide some information, nothing is as accurate as asking men what they think and feel. None of these men are "experts" from academia. None of them are sociologists, psychologists, or relationship experts. They're just regular guys: a computer technician, a personal fitness trainer, a banker, a college student, an entrepreneur, a corporate executive, a police officer, a mechanic, and an attorney.

After much sampled opinions, below are list of ten things that men wished women knew. A list that bridge the gap between men and women.

1. ACTING SWEET TO GET A MAN, THEN CHANGING

I don't know why women act so sweet during dating and change completely when they know they've got you.

She used to go to bed in a naughty nightie and didn't care about sweating the curls out of her head. Now she goes to bed with a head full of rollers and a face with mask. When they were dating, she batted her eyes, spoke softly, and always looked sexy. But now that she's got him, that all changed. The gently batting eyes and shy smiles have been replaced with frowns, pursed lips, and shrill tones. No more sexy clothes. Now she dresses like she doesn't care what she looks like, every day is a bad hair day, and she's fast losing the curves in her body and developing a pleasantly plump figure.

Of course, men can't expect women to be superwomen who are able to work, cook, clean, and make love with flawless precision. But a woman shouldn't start out playing the superwoman role at the beginning and then change. It's better to present herself as she is and get it all out in the open. When a woman changes her entire act after the relationship gets going, men feel as though they've been duped. Suddenly, he doesn't know what to believe anymore and feels he can't really trust the woman he thought he knew.

2. NOT GIVING ENOUGH SPACE

She clings to me because she thinks that every minute I'm not with her I'm fooling around

The "S" word must be used carefully. Some men intentionally abuse the term "I need my space" to ensure that they can have their cake and eat it too--fool around while not giving up what they already have. But not all men are that way. Most men simply just want some room to be by themselves. Men, just like women, need to feel that they aren't trapped or being held hostage in their lives. From time to time, men want to get away and be alone or hang out with their friends.

But it's a strain on the relationship when women think that a man is being selfish, silly, or making up an excuse to go out and cheat just because he wants some space. The smart woman knows that a man needs his space and doesn't hold it against him. She's confident enough to know that each person needs his/her own space to maintain a healthy relationship. On the other hand, jealous and possessive women are well known for their deliberate attempts to prevent a man from having any sort of privacy. Those are the women who think letting a man out of their sight is a mistake. They keep choke holds on their men and eventually drive them away. But if a woman can't give the man a little space, either the relationship isn't solid or she has some personal problems she needs to deal with. If it's because she can't trust him out of her sight, she doesn't need that man anyway.

3. WANTING TOO MANY THINGS

Some men say women are unrealistic in their expectations and want too much. Of course, wanting a good hardworking man who respects women isn't asking too much. But what about when it goes far beyond that? For some women, having a good man just isn't enough. They also want a Lexus, a home, and everflowing cash. When they don't have these things, they moan and complain as though life is terrible. If the man dares to say something about how he's happy with things as they are, he'll be accused of being complacent, lazy, and lacking ambition. It's fine to have goals and want some luxuries. But counting the blessings you already have never hurts either.

6 THINGS WOMEN NOTICE IN MEN RIGHT AWAY...

ITS A NEW YEAR GUYS. BRACE UP AND GET THAT LADY YOU'VE ALWAYS ADMIRED. Those times where guys careless about how they look is far gone, you even hear some say "If she does not appreciate me this way the she is not mine" My dear, before a lady begins to appreciate your inner qualities, the outer one has to be inviting, there must be an attraction. Follow the tips below...

First impressions may be made in moments, but they predict the course your relationships follow. So if you know what exactly about you draws in the votes, you can perfect it -- and do better with the opposite sex. So what do women notice and appreciate immediately? A substantial portion of the six features of a man are apparent, in terms of height, weight and overall physical attractiveness. And when appearances don’t make the cut, the door slams shut on further interactions. Here’s a list of things to keep that door open. 1. Physical stature Yep, you knew this already: size matters. Height and weight are right on top of the list of things women notice. Too much or too little of either immediately classifies the man as unattractive to women, and closes the door before less physically obviously features (such as confidence) can be determined. 2. Appearances and attractiveness Yes, beauty is skin deep, but it’s going to get women to explore what lies beneath. Attractiveness does include what you were born with, but your genes alone can't scuttle your chances. What really counts is what you do with your hair, clothes, grooming and basic hygiene. If you can't make the effort, women certainly are not going to work hard to learn more about you!